Archive for August, 2009

How a Healthy Lifestyle Contributes to Libido

When you think about your lifestyle, and honestly take a look at it, is it healthy in every area? What about your sex life and your libido? Do you enjoy your relationship and look forward to the sexual part of it, or are you lacking in the desire area? Are you able to enjoy sex when it happens, or is it something you don’t even want to think about? How is your response to stimulation – is it good or do you have a difficult time becoming sexually stimulated? What about lubrication, are you lubricated enough to make sex comfortable?

These things, and even more, can all be affected by how healthy your lifestyle is. Female libido is constantly being challenged by the changes of life. Menstruation, pregnancy, postpartum healing, menopause, and ovulation, all affect your hormone levels which can bring ups and downs with libido. The way you live, the habits you have, and how you treat yourself can all have an impact on your sexual desire and responses.

Evaluating your lifestyle may be the first step to having a better sex life. Even if you don’t suffer from a low libido, improvement is always good. When you look at your lifestyle, you will want to consider every area. Women, especially, will want to consider lifestyle as a catalyst to increasing the libido.

First, do you have any habits that might affect your libido? Some people think that alcohol is a good thing to us as a female libido enhancer. Maybe a glass of wine is good to help you relax, but any more than that and you are actually using something that is a depressant, and will be more likely to kill the mood than increase it. Drinking occasionally, a drink or two, won’t lower your libido. Any more than that, though, and you may be setting yourself up to having a less than healthy sex life. What about smoking? Cigarettes are toxic, and have the ability to affect your overall feeling of wellbeing for the worse, as well as make you less healthy than you should be. Quitting may actually help you feel better about yourself too, which would be a boost to your libido.

How about your diet? Do you eat a lot of junk food? A diet with a lot of sugar, high fat foods, and simple carbohydrates is lacking in essential nutrients that you need for good health. The best diet to follow if you want to have a higher libido, a healthy and happy sex life, and to be generally happier, is one that is full of healthy foods. Whole grains, fruit, vegetables, and lean protein offer enough nutrition to help you become healthier. When you eat healthy, you are using one of the best female libido enhancers there is, nutrition.

How active are you? It has been medically proven that women who get a sufficient amount of exercise are not only healthier, but also have more sex, better sex, and a higher libido. This may be in part because of the feel good hormones that are released when you exercise, and in part because when you exercise you begin to feel better about yourself. With the added bonus that exercise makes you more flexible, and it increases your stamina- both of which will help improve your sex life.

All of these things together create a lifestyle made up of natural female libido enhancers. If you are suffering from a low libido, you may be able to get back to normal by improving your lifestyle.

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Talking to Your Partner

Talking to your partner about a loss of sex drive can be extremely difficult, even for partners that have excellent communication skills. The thing that most partners are afraid of hearing is that the reason there has been a loss in sex drive is because they aren’t seen as attractive any longer, so many people avoid the topic all together. Here are a few can’t miss tips for talking to your partner about sex drive problems.. Remember, life is too short to go without love and intimacy for too long.

Be Gentle

The first angle that you should take with loss of libido is to be gentle, caring and considerate. Chances are, your partner has noticed a decrease in their own sex drive and is just as concerned, if not more concerned, about it than you are. The last thing you want to do is mention it in a crass way or in a way that belittles what your partner is going through. Try to bring it up during a time when the both of you are relaxed and feeling positive. If you’ve had a fight recently or if the two of you seem to be in a bad mood, wait until later to talk about it, or you could make matters much worse.

Put Her Feelings First

Most men are anxious to talk about how this drop off in sex drive has made them feel, and while the feelings of both partners are extremely important, it is important that you put the person who is experiencing this drop off in sex drive first. The root of the problem lies with that person and you have to open up the avenues of communication with that person so the two of you can talk.

Be Honest

You always want to approach this topic with great care and with great respect, but you don’t want to lie, either. If your partner asks you how you have been taking this whole situation, it is important that you are honest, but be gentle about it. If you’ve found it devastating and you are questioning the very foundation of your relationship, say so, but don’t lay blame. Use this opportunity to learn about female libido and what the two of you can do together to work though these issues and end up with a stronger relationship on the other side. Remember, this is an issue that both of you need to work though, not just the person going through the downturn in sex drive.

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