Female Libido Enhancer Blog

Hormonal changes, body changes, and fatigue are some of the things that you can expect with pregnancy. One thing you may be surprised at, though, are the changes that can happen in your libido. With all the changes and adjustments in your body, your emotions, and your energy levels, there is a good chance that you could experience a low libido at times.

Libido changes during pregnancy are normal. They may be difficult to understand at times, with so many ups and downs, but when you experience a decreased libido, keep in mind that it is temporary. Usually women experience a low libido during the first few months, and then it may return to be even greater than normal. Towards the end of pregnancy, the female libido may take another dive.

Childbirth and the first few months following may also offer some changes in libido. When a woman has a baby, her hormones change dramatically. If you breastfeed after your baby is born, you have other hormone issues, including different hormones that are produced just from breastfeeding. You will also be putting out more energy to make the milk for your baby. Along with the physical labor of childbirth, these things can take a toll on your libido.

There are things you can do after childbirth to bring your sexual desire and responses back to normal. First, you will need to make sure you give yourself the necessary time to heal. Most often when a woman has a baby, she is advised to wait about six weeks to have sex. That is because the vaginal canal, the cervix, and all of your sex organs, need to heal from the trauma put on them from childbirth. It is also to help prevent any infection from setting in.

Take advantage of this time to enjoy different ways to be intimate with your partner. Massage, non-sexual touching, and just enjoying being together are all wonderful ways to begin slowly bringing your libido back up. Having moments alone each day, expressing your love for each other in ways other than sexual, as well as sexual but avoiding intercourse are also great ways to get the flame back.
You will also want to make sure you are getting all your nutritional needs met while you are healing. Taking a prenatal vitamin for a few months after childbirth is one good way to make sure you are getting enough vitamins and minerals. This should help you feel well, have your energy renewed, and get back in shape.

Another thing that some women struggle with after childbirth is keeping the attitude that you are a sexy woman. Some women have an emotional struggle within themselves about being a mom. They believe they’re not as sexy or that they can no longer be sexual. Keeping the attitude that you are still a woman with needs, still a wife, still in a relationship where you can and should enjoy sexual intimacy will help you bring up your decreased libido.

Pregnancy and childbirth offer a lot of changes. You can take control of the sexual changes by being ready to avoid problems in that area and take good care of yourself both before and after the baby comes along.

In many cases, when women are faced with a loss of libido, or the complete absence of one, they search far and wide for the reason. Sometimes, the cause can be traced all the way back to incidents that happened to us during our childhood. Incidents of sexual abuse or blunt trauma to the body, or even a completely non-sexual trauma, can embed itself in our deepest consciousness and play havoc with our self image and our ability to be a fully realized person for the rest of our lives until we deal with it properly.

Sexual Abuse

An absolutely stunning number of young girls are sexually molested at some point during their childhood. Some women have a conscious memory of this happening and can work through the pain over a period of years with the help of a trusted confidant. Others repress the incident and then wonder why they have issues with their sexuality later on in life. Many women choose to undergo hypnotherapy to see if they have any repressed memories, while other women simply choose to wait and see if things surface on their own. Regardless of which path you take, sexual abuse is never the child’s fault and should never be held against a victim at any point.

Blunt Trauma

As any boy who has ever landed wrong on the monkey bars can tell you, blunt trauma to the body during childhood is extremely common, and much of it goes unreported. While common gender stereotypes dictate that girls don’t have the kind of playground or sports injuries that boys do, blunt trauma to the sex organs or to another part of the body is a very real threat, and of an injury is ignored or belittled, it can become a serious physical and mental roadblock to a healthy female libido later on in life.

Walking In on Mom & Dad

The other kind of trauma that a child can undergo that could later impact their sex life would be an unpleasant or scary first introduction to sex. This often happens when a child walks in on mom and dad and is yelled at and later punished or the first time they are caught playing doctor with another child in the neighbourhood. If nothing but negative connotations are associated with your sex organs or sex in general, it is pretty tough to grow up with a healthy attitude towards sex.